The chapter I studied this
week was called The ABCs of Successful
Romantic Relationship Development: Meeting, Dating, and Choosing an Eternal
Companion. The letter “A” stands for awareness
of or acquaintance with another
person, “B” is the buildup of a
relationship, “C” is continuation
following commitment to long-term
relationship, “D” is deterioration or
decline in the interdependence of the
couple, and “E” stands for ending of
the relationship.
In the text, Thomas S.
Monson explains that we must prepare for success in finding an eternal
companion. However, many experiences exert an influence on your success in
meeting and choosing an eternal mate, including family experiences throughout
childhood, adolescent experiences with other significant people in your life,
and things that are happening in your current environment. He asks the
question, how do we come to terms with negative experiences in our families? He
says, “while therapy, good books, and good role models outside the family are
helpful, ultimately, the doctrines of the gospel of Jesus Christ, especially
the Plan of Salvation and the Atonement, are the most powerful agents of
change.”
On a physical note, signs
of depression, anxiety, and immaturity in both partners have negative effects
on the relationship satisfaction of both partners. It can be said the other way
as well, that the more positive and kind each person is, the more satisfied
they are with their relationship. After taking care of issues from your family
and peer relationships, you then make efforts to initiate relationships with
the opposite sex.
When it comes to qualities
you want in a husband, it can be hard to discern between what characteristics
are good and which ones are bad. Elder Richard G. Scott states in the text, “a
possible mate should have a deep love of the Lord and His commandments and a
determination to live them. A possible mate should also be kindly
understanding, forgiving of others, and willing to give of self, with the
desire to have a family crowned with beautiful children and a commitment to
teach them the principles of truth in the home.”
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